The Collective is a private social network for women experiencing shifting beliefs. Our mission is to empower women to become self-determined in their beliefs & in their lives so they can step into authentic identity and authentic community.
We're not here to tell you what to believe. We're here to link arms with you in your own unique journey, providing support and life-giving tools so you can deconstruct your own beliefs in your own way and in your own time.
Choosing to platform our community on our own social network was an easy "YAAS!" for us. However, it does require a bit of a learning curve. We still think it's worth it! Here's why.
Exclusive Content — The Collective was founded by Dr. Katie Blake. You'll receive access to exclusive content that you simply won't find anywhere else. Having our own social network allows Katie to share content freely and retain ownership of that content. In The Collective, Katie hosts regular Zoom workshops and curates an inspirational book club. She shares countless Spotify playlists and hosts surprise conversations with guest experts on meaningful topics related to belief formation & deconstruction.
Conversation — Expect a safe container to talk about your experiences here. In this space, you can share ideas or questions that you may not be able to talk about in your everyday relationships. Be seen and heard and known in this community. Our all-around amazing moderator, Essie Mills, keeps the conversations flowing through regular thought-provoking questions and dialogue-sparking posts.
Connection — There are truly endless opportunities to connect with other women who share unique but similar identities and interests on the journey of belief deconstruction. The Collective is highly organized and curated through Topics, Identities, and Cohorts that you can join and follow. You can also join us for regular community-led social meet-ups on Zoom. Make life-giving and lasting friendships as we all gather around the table of belief deconstruction.
If you're not paying for a product, you are the product. And, you're not a product here. It would be easy for us to host this community on an existing, free social platform, but our decision to reject that model is an intentional one.
Free social platforms are ridden with ads and distractions. We don't want that here. We think it's worth the administrative fees of hosting our community here, because we are committed to safety and privacy. By asking for a small fee for community membership, we are able to offer a private, ad-free experience without the distracting noise from your overly-political uncle on that other platform.
We also choose to offer this community at a low, accessible fee to keep the community safe. Free spaces invite in any and all trolls. We want to make sure that we're creating a safe container here. Asking for a small community fee builds a boundary around our community and naturally keeps the good in and the bad out.
We also don't offer free trials in order to keep the space safe. We don't want to give anyone the opportunity to pop in for the short-term and peep you and your private shares. Disallowing free trials allows us to keep this community tight-knit and unadulterated.
We are firm believers in women getting paid for their work and their worth. We regularly support other women content creators by joining their communities, attending their workshops, and inviting them to join our community as guest experts in paid speaking spots. However, we know the financial stresses and strains of being a student, stay-at-home mom, or really any woman living under the thumb of patriarchy. Our goal is to make The Collective accessible. For that reason, we choose to offer The Collective at an accessible price point that also helps us pay the administrative costs of running this community.
If you have any technical issues or questions, please reach out to our administrator and all-around go-to-person, Essie Mills. You can email Essie directly at [email protected].
We hope that you'll link arms with us here in The Collective and help us create a vibrant and inspiring community of women who share the common experience of changing beliefs and a common passion to grow.
See you on the inside,
your hosts, Katie and Essie
We’re doing something a bit different here with The Collective, and we think it's best to communicate expectations upfront. We need everyone’s help to keep this emerging community as valuable, authentic, and safe as possible.
This means a few rules of the road:
Don’t Spam or Self-Promote. While we all love a little self-promotion (this is still the Internet after all!), for everyone to get the most out of The Collective, please don’t just mindlessly post about your latest work or promote your idea. A good rule of thumb is that if you are tempted to add something about “work from home” or use ALL CAPS, don’t post it! Any multi-level marketing, fundraising, outside affiliate links, off-topic, self-promoting posts or solicitations for money will be removed. Direct messaging other members to sell services or products is strictly prohibited. On that note, if you're here with the sole intention to lurk and steal content for your own self-interests, do us all a favor and save us the insult and heartache by moving right along.
Share Stories and Experiences, Not Advice. Nothing builds a beautiful conversation faster than sharing your stories and experiences, and nothing shuts one down faster than just posting advice. If you’ve written the words, “you should…” hold up. On the other hand, if you find yourself writing, “In my experience…” keep going!
Troll Elsewhere. There are plenty of places where trolling is going to get you a lot more attention. If you’re tempted to troll here, head on over to those platforms and get it out of your system. Snark or spam will be deleted immediately. This is a safe space. Let's all work to support and sustain that. If you see a post that violates these guidelines, flag it! Katie and Essie, our Community Hosts, are committed to stepping in quickly to contact the member privately or remove the offending post.
Value Diversity. We want to foster an environment where healthy debate is encouraged and everyone is celebrated for sharing their questions, stories, and perspectives. Diversity is one of our premier values here. Women in our community fall all along the identity spectrum, and we love that. For example, we have women in our community who are agnostic to atheist, Buddhist to Christian, Non-Dual Shiva Tantra to mystic. We hope this inspires you to show up open-minded and open-handed to your journey towards self-determination.
Commit to Confidentiality: We ask that you commit to holding a safe container of confidentiality in this space and in our interactions. We strongly value safety and privacy. If you can't commit to that at this time, we simply ask that you consider joining at another time when you feel ready to honor that commitment.
The Collective is Not Therapy. Please be self-aware about how and when you feel drawn to share. If you don’t have the support of a therapist but find that you need one, BetterHelp.com is a great resource and is accessible from just about anywhere!
For Personal Use Only. The Collective is intended for personal use only. Material shared here is proprietary, copyrighted and developed specifically for and by Dr. Katie Blake. Such proprietary material is solely for your own personal use. Any disclosure to a third party is strictly prohibited. You are not authorized to re-sell, share, or use for profit any of Dr. Katie Blake's intellectual property.
These guidelines were created to ensure that together we're creating a space that’s safe, welcoming, inclusive, and valuable for everyone. Once you join, you are committing to these community guidelines.
Feel free to reach out to us with any and all questions you might have before you join! Email us at [email protected], and we'll be in touch.